Step 1: Get Into a Comfortable Position
- For Your Partner:
- Suggest a position where she feels relaxed. A common recommendation is to place a pillow under her pelvis, which can enhance comfort and offer you better access to her body.
- Encourage her to widen her knees, which can provide more room for stimulation.
- For You:
- Choose a comfortable position that you can maintain for an extended period. Avoid positions that may strain your neck, back, or legs.
- Options like kneeling on the bed with a pillow under your knees, or sitting in a chair if the height is appropriate, can provide stability.
- Comfort is key here, as oral sex often takes time, and you want both partners to stay comfortable throughout.
Step 2: The Patient Buildup
- Start Slow and Gradually Build Anticipation:
- Begin by teasing the inner thighs—this area is sensitive and can be highly pleasurable. Use gentle kisses and light touches to engage her senses.
- Move Toward the Vagina:
- Slowly work your way toward her vagina. Don't rush. Allow the anticipation to build as you approach this sensitive area.
- Focus on the Outer Areas First:
- Gently kiss and lick around the outer parts of the vagina to start. This builds anticipation and helps to focus attention on the overall experience, rather than rushing straight into stimulation.
- Introduce the Clitoral Area:
- Gradually focus on the clitoris, but do so gently at first. The clitoris is a highly sensitive area, so starting with the tip of your tongue and moving from the bottom to the top allows for a softer, more gradual buildup.
- Increase pressure and pace slowly as she responds positively, but avoid rushing. Consistency in technique is more effective than switching up methods too often.
Step 3: The Start-and-Stop Method
- Bring Her Close, Then Pause:
- As you sense that she is approaching orgasm (evidenced by physical responses like increased moaning, body contractions, or changes in breathing), stop before she reaches the point of no return.
- Give her about 30 seconds of rest by changing focus to other parts of her body, like kissing her thighs, neck, or breasts. This helps to build anticipation and delay the climax for a more intense release.
- Repeat the Process:
- Resume the same technique and rhythm after the 30-second break. Repeat this process of bringing her close, then pausing, several times. Each cycle allows for a deeper level of arousal and builds up pleasure more quickly.
- Final Release:
- After several rounds of the start-and-stop technique, when you sense she is ready to climax, continue at the same pace and intensity, allowing her to experience an intense, satisfying orgasm.
- Pay attention to her body’s signals, and ensure you maintain consistency in the pressure and rhythm you've found to be effective.
Key Takeaways:
- Comfort and Positioning: Find a comfortable position that works for both partners to avoid strain during the session.
- Patience and Anticipation: Gradually build up pleasure by starting slow, focusing on anticipation, and being patient with each step.
- The Start-and-Stop Technique: This method intensifies the experience by building anticipation and delaying the orgasm for a stronger, more explosive climax.
This technique is about the gradual buildup of sensation, patience, and attention to your partner’s reactions. The more you practice these techniques with care and sensitivity, the more rewarding the experience can be for both partners.